21 Life Lessons of 2018
It’s coming to the end of the year and that means time of reflection. I am not very good at reflecting on a weekly or monthly basis, but it’s something about the end of the year that brings about feelings of reminiscing and reflection.
Maybe it’s because a year is a long time and you can measure how far you’ve come much easier. Also the end of the year does have a sense of closing out to it, you might start to make new years resolutions or have plans, goals and dreams for the year ahead.
So now seems a good time more than ever to reflect. Did you achieve what you set out to this year? Are you in a better place than when you started? Have you learnt lessons, grown and become more wise? I hope you have seen some improvement, no matter how small, and I hope you have achieved what you set out to do.
This blog post is some what inspired but my IG stories and the daily lessons I am putting on there. This is a 30 day challenge given to me by my mentor that shares the lessons I learn each day from my journal. There’s been a great response so far and I’ve been getting a lot of positive messages from people telling me how much it’s helped them, or brightened up their day. If you haven’t already checked it out then follow me, and watch out for the daily nuggets of wisdom over the next 30 days.
The lessons I am about to share are from my own personal journal, podcasts, books, you tube videos, successful people and entrepreneurs that have shared their life experiences or are sharing wisdom passed down from ancient philosophers like the Stoics. Take what you can from each one and see if you can apply them to an area of your life.
Remove self judgement. This holds you back from being the person you want to be. You are capable of so much more. When you relief yourself of self judgement you give yourself permission to move forward.
Don’t stress over what you can’t control. Next time you feel stressed ask yourself. Is this in my control? If it’s not then you have to let it go and focus on what you can control in the situation. Being stressed over things you can’t control will make you more stressed and frustrated, controlling what you can will make you feel more empowered and you are doing what’s within your power.
Understanding and acknowledge the other persons point for view. Understand where the other person is coming from. Put yourself in their shoes, try to feel what they feel, and you will be much more compassionate. Tell them you understand, they will appreciate it and be more likely to listen and understand your point of view after.
Say no to things. It’s OK to say no to things. Saying yes to everything doesn’t put YOU as a priority. Instead you will be running around trying to please other people instead of focusing on yourself. If it’s not a HELL YEAH!! it’s a no. Be mindful of what you’re saying yes to.
Be consistent. This is true in all areas of life. Changing your body, doing better in business or building a relationship require consistency. Find something easy you can do and just keep doing it everyday. Build consistency and build the small wins that move you closer to your goal.
Protect your time. People will unknowing steal your time. Time gets wasted and you might put important things off because you’re too ‘busy.’ Protect your time when you’re completing important tasks, set yourself a time frame and smash it out. You’ll get more done, feel less overwhelmed and will have more time to do things you enjoy.
Meditate. Take time each morning to close your eyes and focus on your breath for 5-10 minutes. You’ll be less reactive, more calm, centred and daily stresses will impact you less.
Do something for someone without expecting anything in return. Carrying out an act of kindness for someone without expecting anything in return will make you feel amazing. Your spreading good into the world and I guarantee you will get good back.
Do the hard stuff until it becomes easy. Some things can be hard to begin with. Having more on your plate, learning a new skill or creating a new habit is hard at first. But just keep doing it, the more you do it the easier it gets and becomes part of you, or what you do. Don’t stop, just keep doing it until it becomes easy.
Be patient. Anything that comes easy generally isn't worth having, and things that take a lot of time, energy and focus mean so much. Losing weight, gaining muscle or moving up the corporate ladder takes time. The road to success is never linear, there will be ups and downs, struggles and victories. Don’t be in a rush, have the end goal in mind, be patient, stay consistent and it will come.
Make time for yourself. Life is busy. You have work, a family to look after, a spouse to please, friends to see or people to meet. Life can turn into a whirlwind of work, commitments, engagements and can leave you with the feeling of no time. You run around trying to please other people and forget about the most important person…. YOU. Schedule time in your diary and do something you enjoy on a regular basis. You’ll come back refreshed, motivated, happy and ready to crush the world.
Have a clear goal. Having a clear goal (90 days works perfect) will put you in a better chance of accomplishing it. Write it down, if it’s not written down then it’s merely a wish or a dream. Be specific, realistic, set a timeframe and get someone to hold you accountable. Although wishes and dreams are nice they don't come true without a written plan of action.
Slightly step outside your comfort zone. Everything happens just outside your comfort zone. Do something that challenges you, start easy and build on that. If you don't slightly push yourself on a regular basis you won’t progress and will be become stagnant. When you do, you build character and step closer to what you want.
Celebrate the small things. Putting yourself down and negative self talk comes easy for most people, and you forget all the small wins you have under your belt. Celebrating the daily wins is huge. This focuses your mind on the positive things you’ve done and reframes your thinking. When you focus on the small wins you build momentum which carries over in all areas of life.
Don’t gossip. Notice if you gossip about other people, especially in a negative way. This creates bad feelings that you hold onto and you usually can’t control that person or situation anyway. So why waste your time and energy on it.
Will this effect me in 10 years time ?. Next time you worry, are sad or frustrated ask yourself ‘Will this effect me in 10 years time?’. If the answer is no, then it’s not worth worrying about. There can be a lot of wasted time and energy on negative things that will be gone by next week. Choose what you put your focus on, does it really matter in the grand scheme of things?
Failure leads to success. Failing is inevitable. It’s not if you fail, it’s how many times do you need to fail until you reach your version of success? You have to fail in order to move forward, if you’re not failing then you’re trying. Keep failing, keep learning, and keep moving forward.
Have fun. Don’t take life too seriously, we are on this planet a mere blink of an eye compared to the life of the universe. Use the time you have wisely, go for it, but have fun in the process.
Hire a mentor or coach. If you want to be in a certain position then hire someone that is already there. A mentor is the reason you’re reading this blog right now, my mentor holds me accountable and guides me through areas of my business. It saves time and is invaluable if you want to achieve your goals.
Remember the human scale. It’s important to remember how big the universe is. With trillions of atoms and the earth being 4.5 billions years old, the shear scale is hard to comprehend. Most humans live several decades which is a blink of an eye in comparison. Keep that in mind when you feel self important, or trivial matters mean so much. Because they don’t. You are one of many doing their best on this planet, and that’s all you can do.
You are a miracle. Just being alive is a miracle! Your sperm was the one that reached the egg out of hundreds of millions of others. You are amazing! You can achieve whatever you set your mind to. You are perfect just the way you are so enjoy the rollercoaster that is life.
I hope you enjoyed reading this as much as I enjoyed writing it. I could go on, but I think these 20 provide enough take aways for 2018. Feel free to list some of your life lessons in the comments section. It would be great to hear from you. I hope you all have an amazing Christmas, feel free to reach out to me anytime as I would love to help anyway I can. Have fun, be merry and see you next year.